你可能在悦宝园报了宝宝独立课程。你是多么希望独处一会儿，安静的享受一杯拿铁，或者仅仅是不受打扰的冲个澡。你想着想着，一种负罪感就如潮水般把你淹没了。你就是那种要把小宝宝抛弃而换取独乐乐的坏家长！
You have just enrolled your child in a parent-optional class at Romp n’ Roll. You are looking forward to getting a mani/pedi, enjoying a peaceful latte, or simply taking a shower in complete privacy. Suddenly you are overcome by a wave of guilt. Are you being a bad parent by “abandoning” your little one just so you can have some time for yourself?
其实，正相反，作为哈佛大学早期教育学研究项目的研究员之一，我为我们的一项学术发现而欣喜不已，经调查，那些快乐的，明智的，能够给与宝宝很周到呵护的家长，都是我们所说的：“健康的自私鬼”。在他们给与宝宝很好照顾的同时，他们会毫不犹豫的照顾好自己。
Actually, it is quite the contrary. As a researcher with the Harvard Preschool Project I was fascinated by one of our findings. In studying the traits of parents who were raising bright, happy, well-adjusted children, we discovered that they routinely demonstrated what we called “healthy selfishness.” While they took very good care of their offspring, they never hesitated to take care of themselves as well.
这就像在飞机上的安全措施法则。他们让你先戴好氧气罩，你然后再帮助你的宝宝获得氧气。如果你先窒息了，你怎么还有可能照顾到任何人呢？
It’s like the instructions they give you on the airplane. They tell you to put your oxygen mask on first and then help your child with his. After all, if you pass out, you are not going to be doing any good for anyone.
所以，去尽情的享受自己的时光吧，拿铁，淋浴，或者随便什么快乐的事。当你享受这段快乐的时光时，不要有任何负罪感，反而应该自豪，你正在做一个心态健康的家长所应该做的。
So go ahead and enjoy the mani/pedi, the latte, the shower, or whatever. And while doing so, forget about feeling guilty and take pride in the fact that you are doing precisely what a good parent should be doing.
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