从他出生以来的这6个月里，你放下宝宝离开房间，他都表现的非常好。但现在，突然的，每次你离开，你的宝宝开始各种闹啊，用哭、喊来表示不满。这到底是怎么了？
For the six months since he was born, you have been tending to your baby then leaving the room. Andhe was totally cool with that. Now, all of a sudden, every time you depart, your baby goes into total freak out mode, crying and screaming in protest. What is that all about?
这在发展心理学领域叫做“分离焦虑”，但别被“焦虑”二字吓着，这不是情感上的问题。这实际上是认知发育过程中一个正面正常的附加产物。
This is what developmental psychologists refer to as “separation anxiety.” And despite their use ofthe word “anxiety,” it is not an emotional problem. It actually is anormal by-product of advances in cognitive development.
在出生的头6个月里，宝宝不能够有一个完整的思绪来捕捉信息和经验。他们是真正活在“当下”的，在他们的意识里没有过去和未来，只有现时。如果什么事情消失在他们的眼睛里，这个事情就是不存在了。视线之外即不存在。比如一个4个月大的宝宝坐在婴儿椅上玩沙锤。沙锤突然脱手了，滚落到桌下，他看不见了。宝宝会怎么做？哭么？不会，他会继续玩其他的东西。
For the first six months orso, babies are in capable of capturing information and experience in mentalform. They live strictly in the here and now; there is no past and there is no future, there is only the present moment. If something is not immediately available to their senses, it does not exist. Out of sight is literally out of mind. Let’s say a four-month-old baby is sitting in a high chair playing with a rattle. He drops the rattle and it rolls underthe table where he can’t see it. What does he do? Cry? No. He just goes on to something else.
形成和储存思维影像要到6个月大。所以，一个8个月的宝宝坐在同样的婴儿椅上玩儿同样的沙锤，沙锤同样滚落到他看不见的地方了，他会怎么做？他可能大哭！但大哭前你会看到他先四处看，寻找他的沙锤，因为他知道沙锤还在某个地方。
The ability to form and store mental images comes in around the six month mark. So let’s say the same baby is now eight months old, sitting in the same high chair playing withthe same rattle. He drops it and it rolls where he can’t see it. What does he do? He may very well cry, but before doing so you see him looking around, trying to find the object he now knows is still there somewhere.
换句话说，只有到了6个月后，当你离开时，你的宝宝才会意识到你离开了他，分离焦虑只不过是成长过程中的自然阶段。但当以后的几个星期里，你频繁的离开又回来，他们的极端抗议行为自然会慢慢消失了。
In other words, it is not until around six months that your infant becomes mentally capable of missing you when you are gone, and separation anxiety is simply the natural consequenceof his developmental progress. And after seeing you leave and come back several times over the course of a few weeks, the freak out reaction should gradually fade away.
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